Monthly Archives: May 2014

YOUR FRIENDS DETERMINE YOUR FUTURE

As a baseball scout, I have seen many talented players over the years be influenced by poor friends they have chosen and it eventually brought them down and led to their demise. As a fellow baseball coach or scout, I’m sure you have experienced the same thing as well. I am always reminded that – The choices we make today will effect our lifestyle tomorrow. 

George Washington once said; “Associate with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation; for it is better to be alone than in bad company.”  There is an old Proverb in scripture that says: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 

One of the most important things a leader can do is to surround him (or her) self with the right kind of people. I have a friend who constantly says, “The friends you choose will determine the quality and direction of your life … I couldn’t agree more!

Prior to current Atlanta Braves catcher, Evan Gattis being drafted, I read a quote by him. Evan said; “I was so wrapped up being a baseball player, I had no idea if anyone really cared about me.” Evan went on to talk about how important it is to surround yourself with good friends and relationships in your life.

Friends

Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future. Show me the five people who are closest to you and I’ll show you who you’ll be in five years. Studies show that you are an average of the five people closest to you in your life. Not happy with your life?  Maybe it’s time to surround yourself with some different people.

It is impossible to fathom how different my life would be if I were not surrounded by some great people. People who are willing to tell me what I need to hear – not what I want to hear. If you are looking for a tangible way to improve your reputation, start by choosing the right friends. Remember, it is better to be alone than in bad company.

The next five years of your life are going to pass quickly. What will you become? That’s up to you. However rest assured of this – Your destination will depend on the friends you choose.

Therefore….choose wisely!

s2s,

Kevin

Question: What is the most important quality you look for in a friendship? 

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ARE YOU A SUCCESSFUL FAILURE?

I read an interesting statistic the other day. It said; “The successful entrepreneur has averaged 4 business failures in his lifetime.” Wow, who would have imagined? Hall of Fame Basketball great, Michael Jordan once said; “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost more than 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” 

According to leadership expert John Maxwell, “Failure is the price you pay for success.”  The key is to fail well… meaning you learn from your mistakes.

It’s no different in life. Whether you are a baseball coach, scout, executive, or parent. Are you a successful failure? Or does your pride in not admitting your shortcomings build a wall between you and those you are leading and influencing. The best thing you can do for the players on your team, employees in your organization, or family members at home is say you’re sorry when you need to – and give them some freedom to fail as well. The idea is not to have the perfect team, organization, or family – but a learning team, organization, or family. Truth is, that can only start by admitting mistakes. Leaders set the example. Let the example start with you.

s2s,

Kevin

Question: What else do you feel it takes to be a “successful failure?” 

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THREE SUGGESTIONS TO BECOMING THE BEST DAD AND PARENT

Yesterday was Mothers Day. Happy Mothers Day to all the moms out there. I hope you had a great day. You are the best!

When I was a young boy, I remember my dad coming home from work one mid-afternoon. He walked in the house and changed his clothes fairly quickly. He told me to get my glove and get in the car. We were going to my first major league baseball game. The Angels vs A’s.

I’ll never forget. As we drove up the the parking lot, the enormous size of the stadium had me amazed. My heart was racing because I too dreamed of becoming a major league baseball player someday. We finally got into the stadium and walked through the tunnel leading to our seats. There it was – the field, the players, the music, the crack of the bat, and the delicious smells of hot dogs and cotton candy.

After finding our seats mid way between 3rd base and home plate, we watched the entire game together. Just my dad and I. You see, what had the most impact was that my dad and I were doing something together as father and son. Spending time together. Before walking out of the stadium, my dad bought me a pennant and a hat.

That night was special and unforgettable. It was one of my favorite memories from childhood. My dad planned a night where he focused his attention solely on me. I felt honored, loved, and cared for. It empowered my dad to speak into my life in a more influential way. Throughout the years growing up, I listened to my dad and took his advice on many areas of life – even to this very day. Making special memories with our children wins us the right to speak into their lives in a powerful way.

As a baseball coach or scout, long hours and/or days away can rob you of valuable time with your children throughout their adolescent and teenage years. Those are times you can’t get back. However, don’t lose heart or be discouraged.

Here are 3 basic suggestions for making powerful memories with your children when you are around them at home.

1. Pay Attention: Keep an eye on your child’s interests. Make note of them and start a list.  Study your child and know them. Find out how they are wired. What makes them tick. What is their passion. Ask them questions and find out what they like. Talk to your wife and get her ideas as well. This takes time and effort – but it’s worth it. My dad knew I loved baseball. When he took me to the game, He was wise enough to pay attention and know what I liked. He intentionally put me in my “sweet-spot.”

2. Make a Memory: Create a time where it is just you and your child  You don’t need to shell out a lot of money. It’s about the time you spend together, not how much money you spend. Remember, LOVE is spelled TIME. Your child will feel cared for by how much attention and time they are receiving from you. Plan it out and surprise him or her. Make sure they know this is something special when you tell them. Try to do something that is not the norm. Just make it a memory for them, one that they will never forget.

3. Keep your Word: This is huge! Children do not forget what you tell them. If you say you will take them somewhere, be at their game, or will do something for them or with them – then keep your word. I can honestly say I still do my best to practice this principle today with my grown children. If my dad said he would do something with me or for me – he followed through. It’s was, and still is today, as good as done. Remember, a lot more is caught than taught!

Being a father is tough business. It’s challenging and it’s hard. However, putting into practice these three basic suggestions may just help you to become the best dad and parent you were created to be.

Question: Is there any other suggestion you would add that would make lasting memories with your children?

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DIVING IN!

For the past couple of weeks my son, Zack has been in transition. Several months ago he made a life decision; a choice if you will, to dive into the deep end of life’s “swimming pool” and chase his dream and passion. After much prayer, and seeking wisdom from his parents and other mentors in his life – he showed bold leadership and didn’t look back.

He made a decision to dive into the deep end and make an impact with his life serving others as a Firefighter / EMTA / Paramedic. He dove in and hasn’t looked back since, starting week 1 last week at the fire academy. Yes, I’m a proud father of a first responder in training!

Deep End

Most of us like shallow, safe, and easy. Especially the older we get. We are more comfortable in the kiddie pool. However, what if you made a decision to do some swimming…or at least be bold and dive into the deep end for a change? Leadership often times requires bold action steps.

I say if you are going to go for it, go big. Stop dreaming about shallow, safe, and easy. Say goodbye to the baby pool and try something really hard for a change. Chase your dreams and passions in life before it’s to late. Don’t live life in the rear view mirror saying “what if”? 

For some of you it has been too long since you challenged yourself, or even your team. Stuff gets accomplished when goals are big and when they are made public. For some of you It’s time to go deep or go home.

Remember, when the water is over your head, it doesn’t matter how deep it is. So dive in – and watch what happens! 

If an 18 year old young man can do it – so can you!

s2s,

Kevin