Monthly Archives: March 2015


A few days ago, I heard a story of a firefighter who chose not to resist but assist, and go back into a smoldering house to look for a set of wedding rings that the owner could not retrieve in time.

This firefighter found the rings and gave them to their superior officer to make sure they got back to the rightful owner. That selfless act of serving help bring a bit of joy to an otherwise dark and gloomy situation.

To resist says, “Take the day off.” To assist says, “Go help someone in need have an easier day.”

Resistance doubts, pouts, whines, and sits on the couch.  Assistance gives, shares, encourages, brings joy, and makes deposits.

Today you will resist or you will assist. The choice is yours.

Make the decision to win the resistance and assistance choice in life this week.




Let me start by saying that integrity is not something you do as much as it is who you are.  But there are things you can do to help yourself become who you want to be.

I have a good friend who is famous for saying “Be intentional about pursuing integrity; find yourself a wing man.”  If you’re going to have sustained success as a leader in life, you can’t fly solo.


I experienced this last week, I received an early morning phone call from a trusted friend and accountability partner. This wasn’t your normal “Hey how are you doing phone call.”  It was a call of accountability, making sure I am getting enough rest and not burning the candle at both ends in my scouting responsibilities while continuing to recover from an illness.

I had two choices to respond; I could either embrace his direct, firm and caring accountability or get defensive, prideful and angry shutting him out. I chose to humbly embrace it, knowing he truly cares about me and my well being. Leaders embrace accountability!

Accountability is a powerful thing. It is actually a barometer of whether you are living an “integrated” life or not. If you are avoiding accountability or if you balk at the idea, it should be a huge red flag to yourself and others.

Having a friend who knows your strengths as well as your flaws can help you stay on the right path. You are much more likely to do the right thing when you know others are counting on you. And you are certainly on your best behavior when others are present.

If there are places where you are tempted to compromise your integrity, you should never go there alone. Travel, computer usage, discretionary time, and even a meeting with someone you shouldn’t be meeting with, can all represent danger zones.

Build yourself a lifestyle that is surrounded by accountability partners (“Wing Man”) and you will increase your chances of staying faithful. Remember the goal is always progress – never perfection. Have a great week!



Are there some practices you live by to help you maintain your integrity?


One of the most important decisions you and I make as leaders is, “Who’s on our team?” The results you’ll pursue will change over time, skills can be developed and community can be strengthened. However, if you have the wrong players and coaches on the team, or staff members around the table, your ultimate success will always be in jeopardy.

Here are a few questions that may be helpful as you select your team.

Q: Does this person want to be on a team?

I’ve worked with and around some very talented athletes, scouts and coaches during my career who were not always team players. They were gifted, but for whatever reason, they wanted to be an individual contributor. Trying to convert some of these types of people can be very challenging if not impossible – and it rarely ever works.

Q: Are they willing to contribute in a team setting?

Do you know people that want to be part of something without getting their hands dirty? You sometimes see this in a team setting. You may find individuals who enjoy the team vibe, but they may not want to contribute to the hard work of actually making the team work. If you can discern this before you put someone on the team – don’t.

Q: Is this individual a learner?

An important ingredient in creating a high-performance team involves learning new skills.  If the people on your team are too busy, arrogant, stubborn, prideful or unwilling to learn, they’ll not be good team members. with over 3 decades of scouting and playing baseball combined – I am still learning and willing to learn. Someone out there always knows more. Leaders are learners.

Q: Do they resonate with the vision & values of the team/organization?

When building a team, you have a fundamental choice around this question. Are you looking for people who already “get it” or are you looking for people to “win over” to your point of view. I’d rather start with people who share a common passion for the cause. You can’t go wrong.

Q: Do you sense that they could become great at what they do?

This is where your intuition or gut feeling as a leader comes into play. I don’t know how to test for this – but you know it when you see it. Whenever possible, I encourage you to select people for your team or staff who you believe have greatness in their future. Remember, a lot more is caught than taught.

I wish you and your team much success in the coming days, weeks and months ahead. Value these five must – haves and you won’t go wrong. Have a great week!



What questions do you ask to get the right players on your team? 



One of my favorite stories from history is about an old warrior named Gideon who led his army to victory against insurmountable odds. As the story goes, Gideon and his men were badly outnumbered, exhausted, battered and bruised, when they came to a crossing in a river.

The story is found in Judges 8:4, the verse reads, “Then Gideon and the 300 men who were with him came to the Jordan and crossed over, weary yet pursuing.”

You have to love a guy who keeps on keeping on and can convince his team to follow even when the odds are stacked against them..,One of the greatest attributes a leader can possess is perseverance.

As I look at my own life and leadership there are several things that make me weary at times. A lack of resources, challenging relationships, unrealistic expectations, demands on my time, and even a need to be relevant and creative writing a weekly leadership blog, all cause fatigue from time to time. Each of these can be obstacles, and even enemies, waiting daily to attack me and steal my joy.

My son, Zachary recently faced a few of these same challenges. After finishing strong, not quitting, weary yet grinding daily and pushing forward despite obstacles and challenges in the fire academy, he earned his Firefighter 1&2, Haz-mat ops, and EMT National Certifications.

His obstacles were challenging and overwhelming at times, yet he kept pursuing, kept pushing, not giving up on his dream. Today, after nearly 10 months of Fire and EMT training his dream becomes reality as he begins his full-time career as a Firefighter and EMT with the Coweta County Fire Department.

Like Gideon, we have a decision to make. We can either run and hide, giving in to challenges, pressures and obstacles, or we can keep on pursuing, seeking to make a difference with our life and in the lives of others regardless of the challenges and obstacles we face.

I don’t know about you, however I am choosing to pursue. Just like Gideon, I long to be marked by perseverance.

How about you? If there is a place in your life where you have considered folding your hands and giving up? I say don’t – Keep swinging. Endure. Persevere. Finish.

It’s possible to be weary and still pursue…just ask my son, Zachary. Make that choice, and you might find that your energy will return as well.

If Gideon can overcome, you can too. But only if you keep pursuing.



What are some actions steps you do to overcome being weary?