Last week I was around an individual who constantly complained. To be honest, it drove me nuts. By nature, I enjoy being around people who are encouraging, uplifting and bring positive energy. I don’t like being around people who are constant complainers or who give off negative energy whenever around them. They are what I refer to as “E.G.R.” people…
Extra – Grace – Required 🙂
One of the biggest threats to building a great team and organization is complaining. When we complain we focus on everything else but being our best. Not being the best, but being our best. I recently read an article which stated that complaining actually costs our economy billions of dollars in lost productivity and it will sabotage the morale, engagement and culture of your team if you let it.
To help you break out of a “complaining” rut, below are “four action steps” you can implement instead of complaining. These suggestions will help you realize you are not powerless. You have the power to choose your beliefs and actions.
While you focus on the positives instead of the negatives, you’ll find the faith, strength and confidence to take on life’s challenges and identify the solutions to your complaints.
Practice Gratitude: An ole saying my dad use to say growing up was – “Count your Blessings.” I try to identify 2-3 specifics blessings a day. I’ve learned, and continue learning that it’s physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time. If you are focusing on gratitude, you can’t be negative. You can also energize, encourage and engage your co-workers, friends and family members by letting them know you are genuinely grateful for them.
Praise Others: Instead of complaining about what others are doing wrong, start focusing on what they are doing right. Praise them and watch as they create more success as a result. Of course, identify their mistakes so they can learn and grow from them, but make sure you give three times as much praise as criticism.
Let Go: Focus on the things that you have the power to change, and let go of the things that are beyond your control. You’ll be amazed that when you stop trying to control everything, it all somehow works out. This is a continual learning process for me. I am certain I’m not the only one who is learning this principle. If you’re a strong decisive take charge leader, its easy to say and even harder to do; however, surrender is the answer.
Pray: Research shows that daily prayer reduces stress; boosts positive energy; and promotes health, vitality, and longevity. When you are faced with the urge to complain or you are feeling stressed to the max; stop, be still, plug-in to the ultimate power (God), and recharge. He is big enough to handle anything and everything you talk to Him about.
Practice Gratitude, Praise Others, Let Go and Pray – Four actions steps you can take to be the best leader you can be for your team.
Have a great week!
In your opinion, what do you think causes people to constantly complain?